My Finding More on the Mat by Michelle Marchildon review is a long time coming. Right on schedule, spring got busy juggling family, work, teaching, life, a wedding, a funeral and plain old stuff. In the back of my head I kept thinking “I’ll do write my review tomorrow” pretty much everyday in May. Finally “tomorrow” came and I sat down to write some questions for Michelle and had a V-8 head-smacking moment: Finding More is full of great reminders to sit back and enjoy the ride. Don’t sweat the uncontrollable curve balls that come my way.
Michelle’s life has been chocked full of curve balls. However, instead of letting them knock her out, she took the instruction from one of her teachers “to find her inner badass” . And badass she is. This book isn’t just a nice story of her triumph, it is a frank guidebook to help us all get out of our own ways and find our alignment.
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Meredith: Thank you for taking some time to answer a few questions for me. Your book was great and your journey was one we can that we can all learn from. One of the #YOBC-ers called Finding More very “real” and I agree!
- Question: You start out early in the book with a traumatic story from your youth, which immediately made me tense up. However you changed the tone immediately from “woe is me” to “whoa, it’s me!” You’re self deprecating humor switched the channel from you being a victim to being a strong female. In fact, through all of your trials you appear strong. I sense that this fortitude comes from the females in your life, would you agree?
- Question: You are great storyteller and my favorite story in the book is the one about your father and the turtles. Up until that point the portrait of him is fairly black and white, but you really brought him to life with the narrative. Was your relationship with him similar in that way?
- Question: I appreciate your need for being an “advanced” beginner. I’ve had that turning point in my practice when I asked myself “why am I trying to keep up with all of these fancy pants poses when they weren’t working for me anymore?” Yet every once in a great while I bust out something I know I probably shouldn’t and usually regret it. Do you do that?
- Question: One of my favorite expression that you use in Finding More is, “there is no ‘I’ in team.” You also say, “yoga, although practiced alone, is actually a group effort”. This makes me wonder what your view on private yoga instruction is. Personally, when people ask me for it, I tell them I would rather they come to my classes and experience the community. How about you?
Answer: I think there is a place for private and group instruction. I work privately as a teacher and as a student. When I am a student, my teacher can “see” me clearly and let me know where I am misaligned or need work. It’s hard to see ourselves in our practice. I like to practice with one other teacher and then we can “see” each other and offer advice. But when I practice in a public class, I often go places I never thought to explore. It’s good to let go of that control now and then and be taken on an adventure.This quote, “There is no ‘I’ in team,” was referencing that there is an “I” in “Mind.” The Mind needs to play well with the Body and Spirit, and it really doesn’t. The Mind is kind of a playground bully. We need to keep it in check when the Spirit wants to soar.
- Question: I was thrilled that you brought up the voices in your head that appeared during menopause. I’ve begun that journey, and for a while there, I thought I would completely lose every last of my marbles. Did you use any particular meditation or asana sequence that was particularly helpful?
Answer: Yes! I now use drugs. Seriously, this is my next book I hope to get published in 2015. I had a very bad menopause, and the voices in my head were the least of it. I was sick, very sick, murderously sick and I should have gotten my ass off my yoga mat and into my doctor long before I finally did it. My book will be about what yoga can tell us if we listen. I should have known when I couldn’t do Pincha Mayurasana for two years that it wasn’t because I was afraid. It was because I was sick. I am gathering stories from people who had medical illnesses that they discovered through their practice. It’s fascinating what yoga can tell us about our bodies.But in general, when you want to quiet the voices in your head the best pose is meditation. How we each get there is personal. For me, I need a hip opening sequence and strong core work to sustain the sit. Also, I found that very hot yoga, like Bikram, was helpful. If you make yourself go into the suffering heat, when you come out your own heat is much less intense. If you suffer for 90 minutes, the rest of the day is usually a picnic.